![]() Pick through those little rocks by looking at how you spend your day - perhaps even taking stock every few hours to see where your time has been spent. Is it that even though you want to spend time with your partner you get sucked into the vortex that is social media, checking your phone for ‘just one second’ but ending up losing an hour or two? Or, like Jenny, your goal is to plan an enjoyable holiday but your perfectionism gets in the way. ![]() Pick through the little rocks to uncover what'S in the way of the big rocks What would you like it to have stood for? Find out more in our previous post on Find Your Direction.ģ. Essentially, say you hit this major milestone and reflect on your life. One variation of this is the 'deathbed test', but we thought we’d take a more upbeat spin and look at celebrating your 100th birthday. Try the 100th birthday test to find out what your big rocks are and to examine whether you’re living a life that’s meaningful to you. To help you learn more, we’ve outlined Reasons Why We Lose Direction in Life. For example, you may get derailed because you’re living your life to meet others’ expectations, you’re living a life that looks good in others’ eyes but isn’t actually aligned with what’s important to you, or perhaps your life has just been so busy filling up with little rocks that it’s hard to even see the big rocks in the first place. If you’ve lost your way when it comes to your big rocks, spend some time addressing why this is the case. understand Why the big rocks get lost amongst the little rocks So, how do we declutter our lives so that we can focus on the big rocks rather than the little rocks? We’ve put together ways to help you tip out your vessel and refill from the big rocks up.ġ. Since Jenny gets caught up in the little rocks (itineraries, weather, villa) she loses sight of the bigger picture (big rocks) and purpose of the holiday which is spending quality time with her good friends.ĭoes this sound familiar? Do you find that the little rocks have taken over and blocked your vision of what the big rocks are? Perhaps it's time to declutter so that you can find focus in life and rediscover your big rocks. This means that her interactions with her friends become less enjoyable and it has a flow on effect on her enjoyment of the overall holiday. Things start to unravel when the exact villa that she wants isn’t available, the weather isn’t perfect the entire trip, the day trips that she wants to organise are all booked out, and her mood quickly unravels as her ideal holiday is ‘ruined’. She then starts to meticulously plan every single detail of the trip so that it will match her vision. Armed with reams of research courtesy of Instagram she has a set idea of exactly how the holiday should look, right down to the colour of the umbrella in her cocktail and the view from her hammock. As Jenny and her friends live in different countries this is the first time in five years that they will be together in the same place and Jenny is determined that the holiday should be absolutely perfect. Let’s see how this may play out in real life: Jenny wants to spend some quality time on holiday with her girlfriends. The second point of view is that little rocks can take over every aspect of our lives, and if the big rocks don’t make it in first they won’t fit in as an afterthought. traffic jams, waiting in queues, accidents) cause immense stress because there’s no buffer or ‘wiggle room’? Will it impact on your ability to cope with yet another stressor? Will it impact on your mood? Will it impact on how you interact with others? Will it impact on your relationships? What impact would having every minute scheduled such that unpredictable events (e.g. While that may sound like a way to maximise your time, one important question to ask is how long this approach can be sustained for. The first – and some will be inclined to interpret it this way – is that no matter how busy you think you are you can somehow squeeze in something else and maximise the minutes available to you. We can look at this tale from two differing perspectives. The story repeats with progressively smaller rocks, until sand is used to fill every crevice, followed by water, and the vessel is then ‘full’. The lecturer then pulls out smaller rocks that fill the crevices in between the big rocks. He fills the vessel with these big rocks, asks the class as to whether the vessel is full (the answer being yes as it seems that no more big rocks can fit into that vessel). ![]() There’s a classic tale in Stephen Covey’s book First Things First where a lecturer pulls out some large rocks and a vessel during a class. Why rocks matter when it comes to spring cleaning your life
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